But, that in no way means that she will always be contented with living in a not-very-sexual relationship for the rest of her life. My wife gained weight. But whenever I see a lady outside with good figure, I get an urge. It’s the best sex of my life. I am not in a full blown sexless marriage. I like big sized hips and breasts. “My wife needs to lose 40 or 50 pounds and this really, really bothers me. She is introverted about discussing sex. I find myself falling in love with him, as he’s been more of a supportive partner to me than men I’ve been in an actual relationship with for years. That is why so many people panic when they start to realize that passion and attraction might not be … It is a get it done situation. We do have sex but my wife is merely ‘present’ not participating. I feel she is too skinny. I feel your frustration coming through in your question about not being sexually attracted anymore. In your question, you ask what can you do, but you don’t describe a problem. Keeping the flame alive in a relationship is one of the best ways to maintain the bond between you. I understand why though. I love BEING with my wife in bed, but I can't seem to get excited about having sex. I just don't look forward to it. My Response… Hey Man– First of all, thanks for the email. I look at my wife and I can’t see past the double chin. I've been married for about 3 1/2 years. My wife would never agree to me having sex with other people. I’ve made my annual trek to the top of an 8 foot ladder this week to spend time with the hummingbirds of summer. I know the reason why I’m not attracted to my wife and there’s no good way of saying this either. The notion that your wife is not very sexual is completely bogus. Lately we never even kiss, hold hands or anything. Question: I am a 35-year-old-married guy with two kids.My wife is not at all interested in sex and she has been like this for the last 8 years or so. I do this each year to remind myself the importance of staying OUT of the “Hummingbird Zone”. I mentioned it to her a long time ago and she shut it down. She knows that I want her to lose weight, but she does nothing. Why is My Wife Not Interested in Me Sexually? The sexual relationship or what I … Any suggestions?” B. Thanks for this- amazing how quickly ladies mentioned husband’s not interested! You are right, I am not just interested in quick "in and out" sex, but want the intimacy involved in actually making love. I am not interested to have sex with my wife . Signs my wife is not attracted to me: How to spot them & how to fix them! Now, it may be completely true that currently, your wife is not very sexual with you. My Wife Loves Me but Doesn't Desire Me: Wife Not Interested In Intimacy. Occasionally I go to my ex-girl friend, who is married and quench my self without sexual intercourse. Once we get started it's usually okay, but it seems like as soon as we got married 3 years ago, by sex drive dropped to zero. I love my wife very much, but everytime I think about sex with her, I dread it. But I have not had any sexual intercourse with any one other than my wife, after marriage. Relative to having a sexual relationship, there is a certain dynamic that men absolutely must understand and it is this: "A woman's interest in sex and desire for sex (or the lack thereof) with a given man is a REACTION to that man." She seems not to care.